Would you ever cheat on your husband/wife? [Archive]

EyelashExtensions

02-07-2007, 03:57 PM

No I would just ask them to join in, lol J/K

Of course not cheating only adds more fuel to the fire. If your going to cheat might as well end it before hand and save the feelings of your spouse and more heartache.

MelissaBrian

02-07-2007, 04:05 PM

nope...love my man and very happy!

and with sex life aswell!

tippikitty

02-07-2007, 04:06 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: verotik667</div><div class="ubbcode-body">what happens in vegas stays in vegas </div></div>
Why do you think I'm going back there. /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif

CharliBean

02-07-2007, 04:06 PM

nope. if you want someone else, break the relationship. but i don't want anyone else. xoxo

§ienna

02-07-2007, 04:07 PM

No I wouldn't. :)))

Barney Rubble

02-07-2007, 04:57 PM

i'm not married & currently single so i guess i'd be cheating on myself & i'd probably find out & , then, i wouldný be able to live with myself so i'd kick my out on the streets & never talk to myself or look at myself ever again!

Little B

02-08-2007, 01:38 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Barney Rubble</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i'm not married & currently single so i guess i'd be cheating on myself & i'd probably find out & , then, i wouldný be able to live with myself so i'd kick my out on the streets & never talk to myself or look at myself ever again! </div></div>

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hellokitty75

02-08-2007, 01:41 AM

Never.

cybolynx

02-08-2007, 01:44 AM

i would have it would have to depend on the situation ...

im not saying i believe in it ... or say go ahead ... or i want to ...

but if it was done and somebody found out they should talk about why it is or has happend ... the key to a relationship is to talk and work things out ... i would try and understand and work things out ... but meh thats me ...

DogsRule

02-08-2007, 02:15 AM

DogsRule

02-08-2007, 02:16 AM

And I wouldnt cheat on my hubby, he spoils me way too much /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif haha

Oh and I love him or something too. /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif

Cherry Sweet

02-08-2007, 02:20 AM

sharon

02-08-2007, 08:04 AM

I wouldn't cheat its just not right in my eyes and if you even think your gonna cheat GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP and leave the partener with the dignity of saying you didn't cheat on them while you were together. I have been married for almost 33yrs and am still wildly in love with my hubby wouldn't trade him for the world. we do have ups and downs but we work them out... and we were married at the ages of 17 & 18yrs old.

divemedic

02-08-2007, 09:20 AM

no i would not ever cheat on my wife...

i love her too much.

SusyQ

02-08-2007, 09:22 AM

magpie

02-08-2007, 09:44 AM

I believe when you marry its for life,i would never cheat not even in cards lol /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif

MaO3

02-08-2007, 09:52 AM

In my opinion cheaters are the lowest of the low.

There is no acceptable reason for someone to cheat on their spouse.

I have a real problem with the whole get out thing too. Marriage is for life and if somewhere along the line you suddenly decide that you want someone other than your spouse then I think you had better seek professional help before you do.

My husband and I have been together 27 years and neither of us would ever do that to the other, to me it is the ultimate act of disrespect.

Cheating is most often just about SEX and if both parties in a marriage are open and honest and have decent communication then there is NO reason for a marriage to deteriorate to the point of having to look outside of it for satisfaction.

Light_Keeper

02-08-2007, 10:02 AM

Well said Ma03

lovekisses

02-08-2007, 10:20 AM

I would never cheat either! Its wrong..the thought to cheat shouldnt even be in your head!

My ex hubby cheated on me and I didnt know about it for almost 2yrs and I tell you it hurts when it happens..even though I wanted out of the relationship approx. 10mths when I found out it still hurt. He could have ended it before he cheated! But to some people they love the risk of getting caught and the excuses that are thought of for cheating..lol..

If the sex isnt good, get some toys to spruce it up a bit,talk to a counsellor..
COMMUNICATION is needed to keep a relationship going(among other things)...so talk to each other..

lovekisses

02-08-2007, 10:24 AM

Im very happy in the relationship that Im in now and couldnt ask for more /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

Since before we started dating we had great communication and talked about anything & everything...long,deep conversations

I tell ya communication is one of the major keys to a successful relationship!! /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

02-08-2007, 10:30 AM

I would cheat if the other did first, heck why not? as why should they only get the more the merrier role... /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

I hate cheaters period.

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 11:12 AM

I totally agree Ma03. I had a boyfriend cheat on me once, needless it woke me up and made me realize I DID NOT WANT TO MARRY THAT MAN. We did not have good communication at all. We were together from when I was 16-22. The night I met my husband we went to a parking lot and talked till 6am. He is great at communication and now I see how important it is. We have not really ran into anything major just yet but I'm sure when we do we will talk our away though it.

And I agree if you get bored there are lots of stores that you can buy toys/outfits/anything you want to keep things fun. I swear there is one on everyother corner here (compare to the Soo- that was one of the first things I noticed when I moved here...lol)

MaO3

02-08-2007, 11:26 AM

Communication is key! If you can talk to your spouse than your sex life will never get "old" even when you do. /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 11:39 AM

Very true..We are still newly-weds so we haven't run into issues but I'm sure over the many years together there will be something to talk about.

ProfessorZed

02-08-2007, 11:58 AM

Cheat? Hell no. Hubby and I worked out the rules of our relationship too consciously -- as opposed to using the "default settings" -- for either of us to be comfortable breaking them. That said, if there comes a time when we want to change the rules, together and with both of our full understanding and agreement, and let others into our relationship, then that's not cheating.

Not to say it'll ever happen, but we know far too many happy, well-adjusted polyamorous families to rule it out completely.

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 12:05 PM

Yah but if that is something you choose to do together then that wouldn't be cheating, I agree.

everson

02-08-2007, 01:05 PM

On another note..any single person having something with a married person is just as [censored] as the married person. It works both ways......any thoughts

Sophie's_Mommy

02-08-2007, 01:16 PM

oh god never, i would never cheat . I love my husband too much and would never want to be with anyone else. Plus, the sex is THE best..lol

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 01:37 PM

I agree Griffin...even more worse when hat person "was" your friend...Terrible they both should expect a good woppin'

02-08-2007, 01:45 PM

NO cheating! I have never cheated, and neither has hubby. We've had our ups and downs over the years, and have forgiven and forgotten many things, but there are 2 unforgivables...violence and cheating.. No matter how good or bad things have been,we have never crossed the point of no return.

kim gagnon

02-08-2007, 01:49 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: *~TippiKitty~*</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I like to see the person who's going to answer yes to this questions. </div></div>
really! /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rofl.gif /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rofl.gif /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rofl.gif

IMHO

02-08-2007, 02:22 PM

Is it cheating if the person has sex with the SAME sex? let the debate begin. I have never heard a decent argument on this perversion.

Little B

02-08-2007, 02:23 PM

Of course it's cheating, it's not about the sex, it's about trust!

ProfessorZed

02-08-2007, 02:35 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Thinking Hard</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Is it cheating if the person has sex with the SAME sex? let the debate begin. I have never heard a decent argument on this perversion. </div></div>

Cheating is cheating. That is, if you're breaking the particular rules of your relationship (in most cases, no sexing up anyone but your chosen partner), then it doesn't matter if your outside partner is a man, a woman, or a St. Bernard (eww!).

By the way...what perversion?

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 02:36 PM

I agree with Lil'B...If it is something done behind the others back that regardless of what sex the 3rd party is...for me theres more than sex that classifies as cheating too.

everson

02-08-2007, 02:51 PM

Are using toys (aids) cheating?

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 02:52 PM

only if you are using them with a 3rd party...lol...if its for the two of you...relax, and enjoy...lol

sunnie

02-08-2007, 02:59 PM

Variety is the spice of life you know. Define CHEATERS?

C

Little B

02-08-2007, 03:00 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: griffin</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Are using toys (aids) cheating? </div></div>

Like they are emotional objects. Sorry just seems like a really stupid question! /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif

sunnie

02-08-2007, 03:00 PM

I am so kidding, I would never cheat. I have been cheated on and know the pain it can cause. I could never do that to another living being.

egbsept302006

02-08-2007, 03:02 PM

I honestly think people do have different definition's of cheating thats why communictaion is so important so you can discuss that.

ProfessorZed

02-08-2007, 03:23 PM

I agree, egb. Frankly, I don't think anybody should fall into a committed relationship without discussing what counts as cheating, but since I don't rule the world, there's not much I can do about that!

Like so many others, hubby and I are monogamous, but in choosing a relationship involving only the two of us, we discussed all the other possibilities. Assumptions about the way relationships work don't help anyone.

GirlNextDoor

02-08-2007, 03:29 PM

nah i wont cheat on the ball and chain and im pretty sure the answer to happiness is another woman lol.

Cher

02-08-2007, 03:31 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: griffin</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Are using toys (aids) cheating? </div></div> /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blush.gif /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif
What's in my underwear drawer doesn't hurt anybody.... /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/purpbanana.gif

PeaceTree

02-08-2007, 05:05 PM

Whoa! What is in your underwear drawer??????????????? Got any pictures?

Xzavia

02-08-2007, 05:48 PM

All depends....is Hugh Jackman involved? /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cool_shades.gif
/ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/laugh.gif

really?

02-08-2007, 06:29 PM

I'd rather be punched in the face than cheated on. At least you see it coming and can act accordingly.

mboy67

02-08-2007, 06:42 PM

I hear ya
mind you I have both done to me in my life don't care for either lol.

Xzavia

02-08-2007, 06:42 PM

Hubby knows his only competition is Hugh Jackman, he even bugs me about it. Like that's ever gonna happen!!!!

northern nomad

08-10-2007, 09:58 PM

hmmmm, and the verdict is ??

Macs II

08-10-2007, 10:06 PM

I seem to remember couple of people go banned sometime ago for bumping up old topics ...lets see how consistent the mods are

northern nomad

08-10-2007, 10:16 PM

wait i didnt know that rule existed, where is that in the bylaws ??

Babzz

08-10-2007, 10:21 PM

nope... never did
My husband on the other hand...... ummmm
That is why he is the X /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cool_shades.gif

Kittie

08-10-2007, 10:22 PM

yeah, it's annoying.

and, clearly, no one wanted to post on them anymore, that is why they went to page 1022308902394.

1337

08-10-2007, 11:02 PM

Hey i would.... i have and will again!!!! She cheats on me all the time!!!!! Stupid card games.

Tutones

08-10-2007, 11:33 PM

If the grass looks greener on the other side...

It's probably astroturf!

Babzz

08-10-2007, 11:36 PM

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Verotik

08-10-2007, 11:58 PM

lol

MelissaBrian

08-11-2007, 12:04 AM

no..

Barney Rubble

08-11-2007, 12:04 AM

like homer says:

Marge I swear, I never thought that you would find out.

and:

I'm not gonna lie to you, Marge. See ya soon!

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:01 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MaO3</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Cheating is most often just about SEX and if both parties in a marriage are open and honest and have decent communication then there is NO reason for a marriage to deteriorate to the point of having to look outside of it for satisfaction. </div></div>

MaO3, in saying this it could be perseved you are saying marriage is also just about sex (I am not saying that you are taking this stand point)
If two people in a relationship together want to spice up their sex life and both parties are fine with this, then I see no problem at all.

SusyQ

08-11-2007, 02:02 AM

EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW DQ!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOO HUN!

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:02 AM

The 6th Member Of AC/DC

08-11-2007, 02:04 AM

I cheat at golf and I will burn in hell...

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:04 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW DQ!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOO HUN! </div></div>

what's wrong with that? It's really kind of fun.
and the sex between the two of you after that is great!!!

I am a firm beliver in that if sex is all there is to your relationship then you have big problems

Simba

08-11-2007, 02:04 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: The 6th Member Of AC/DC</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I cheat at golf and I will burn in hell... </div></div>

golf is dumb

nightingale

08-11-2007, 02:05 AM

astroturf.....oooohhh....that burns....

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:08 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: dancingqueen</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Thinking Hard</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Is it cheating if the person has sex with the SAME sex? let the debate begin. I have never heard a decent argument on this perversion. </div></div>

so, if I cheat on my boyfriend with another man you are wondering if that is cheating???

of course it is! </div></div>

Hell ya! You marry as a couple thats it. You want more than there is no relationship no love no respect. Have a nice day. </div></div>

I think you quoted the wrong post /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
just because your having sex with a third party that everyone is okay with does not mean there is no love or respect, but this kind of thing would only work for people who are able to seperate love and sex.

SusyQ

08-11-2007, 02:10 AM

Your right and I shouldn't knock it DQ! It's not my cup of tea but it may be someone elses.

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:13 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Your right and I shouldn't knock it DQ! It's not my cup of tea but it may be someone elses. </div></div>

exactly. It does not play down the seriousness of the relationship, it's just different...

You should edit your quote though, people are gonna think your crazy :P

SusyQ

08-11-2007, 02:25 AM

better? Welcome back DQ I missed you!

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:39 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">better? Welcome back DQ I missed you! </div></div>

just like everyone else... with everyshot so far right /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif

you gonna be at the meet tomorrow? technicaly today

SusyQ

08-11-2007, 02:42 AM

NO I'm getting stuff together for my trip maybe another time though.

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 02:44 AM

awwww, well, enjoy your trip,

adigirl

08-11-2007, 07:03 AM

I wouldn't.

DQ...if it is a mutual thing, it is not cheating. It's an open relationship. Cheating is when it is understood that your relationship is monogamous and you go and have an affair.

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 10:17 AM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: dancingqueen</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW DQ!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOO HUN! </div></div>

what's wrong with that? It's really kind of fun.
and the sex between the two of you after that is great!!!

I am a firm beliver in that if sex is all there is to your relationship then you have big problems </div></div>

Ok can I watch? /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif

kathy590

08-11-2007, 10:50 AM

The chick that broke up my marriage broke up 2 others as well before ours. She has now finally settled in with a nice younger paramedic and is going to be married. He has no idea about her past, but most of his family does. She was apparently looking for stability, she could'nt find it with the married guys, but messed up a lot of lives. I guess she found what she was looking for now, she will eventually cheat on him too, but at least she will get all she was looking for in the process.

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 02:45 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> The chick that broke up my marriage broke up 2 others as well before ours</div></div>

It does take two!

crazymamma

08-11-2007, 02:49 PM

NEVER...

skibunnie64

08-11-2007, 02:50 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: *~TippiKitty~*</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> The chick that broke up my marriage broke up 2 others as well before ours</div></div>

It does take two! </div></div>
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kathy590

08-11-2007, 02:51 PM

Yup, I totally agree, and they actually did me a favour! I am probably the happiest I have ever been in my life.

lynys

08-11-2007, 02:53 PM

Would I ever cheat?

Never.

Why? Because I know what it feels like to be the betrayed spouse.

My husband is currently carrying on with someone else. Hope he's having fun. Because when reality hits him square between the face, he'll have found himself alone... with a wife that has found her own happiness... despite all of the pain I felt.

I would never wish it upon anyone, so I would NEVER do it to anyone.

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 02:56 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Deedolls</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yup, I totally agree, and they actually did me a favour! I am probably the happiest I have ever been in my life. </div></div>
See there is light at the end of the tunnel.

SusyQ

08-11-2007, 02:58 PM

Can you see through a vibrator? /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 03:00 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: *~TippiKitty~*</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: dancingqueen</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW DQ!!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOO HUN! </div></div>

what's wrong with that? It's really kind of fun.
and the sex between the two of you after that is great!!!

I am a firm beliver in that if sex is all there is to your relationship then you have big problems </div></div>

Ok can I watch? /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif </div></div>

tickets are being sold at "ticketmaster"

crazymamma

08-11-2007, 03:02 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SusyQ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Can you see through a vibrator? /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif </div></div>
I almost spit pop all over my keyboard...LMAO

GirlNextDoor

08-11-2007, 03:05 PM

people are as faithful as their options allow them to be.

Its not cheating if you dont get caught.

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 03:10 PM

oneof3

08-11-2007, 03:17 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Object X</div><div class="ubbcode-body">people are as faithful as their options allow them to be.

Its not cheating if you dont get caught. </div></div>

Exactly. Then again, if they aren't complete tramps to begin with, you wouldn't need to look elsewhere.

GenX

08-11-2007, 03:44 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: lynys</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Would I ever cheat?

Never.

Why? Because I know what it feels like to be the betrayed spouse.

My husband is currently carrying on with someone else. Hope he's having fun. Because when reality hits him square between the face, he'll have found himself alone... with a wife that has found her own happiness... despite all of the pain I felt.

I would never wish it upon anyone, so I would NEVER do it to anyone. </div></div>

If Rwgr would have accepted your advances you would have been cybercheating.

lynys

08-11-2007, 03:55 PM

PFFT! HAHA!

Gwanita

08-11-2007, 04:48 PM

hmmmm what a topic....its also a really tricky thing to answer....society reinforces the belief that once with a partner you are to be faithful to that one person and if married it is for life..regardless....do i buy it? NO...hell no....
there are so many reasons why a partner strays ... what it boils down to is good communication and sex. if you aren't talking to one another to understand the other person then how can you carry on a relationship? and if you ain't putting it down in the bedroom then the other person will find a freak who will do those things you don't do....i think that a lot of ppl settle for the one they are with and this is another reason why ppl cheat......
to answer this question if i would the answer is yes. i would cheat if i was in a relationship that wasn't totally satisfying. have a been cheated on .. yes....
i can understand both positons and resepct them both....no one owns another so ppl will do what they want regardless of what keeps them together......
I beleve in open relationships and if i believed in marraige i would be screaming polygamy!!!!!

kathy590

08-11-2007, 05:00 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: lynys</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Would I ever cheat?

Never.

Why? Because I know what it feels like to be the betrayed spouse.

My husband is currently carrying on with someone else. Hope he's having fun. Because when reality hits him square between the face, he'll have found himself alone... with a wife that has found her own happiness... despite all of the pain I felt.

I would never wish it upon anyone, so I would NEVER do it to anyone. </div></div>

And reality WILL hit him in the face, at sometime or another.

MaO3

08-11-2007, 05:05 PM

I have to admit I agree with some of what Gwanita posted. I think that if one cheats its usually (Not always) because the other wasn't doing thier job.
Communication is very important. My husband and I have been together for 28 years and we still like each other. Of course we love each other, but we like each other, we enjoy being together, we enjoy each others company, we communicate.

If you don't have communication you have nothing.

Would I cheat? Nope not ever! My marriage is too important to me to throw away for a roll in the hay. If I felt that my needs weren't being met, he'd bloddy well know about way way before it ever got the the point of cheating.

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 05:09 PM

Would I cheat?...............Hell ya, bring it on!

/ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif j/k

§ienna

08-11-2007, 05:35 PM

I agree with some, not all of what Gwanita says. In most cases, marriage begins with a pledge to be faithful to one another , if those are the promises and expectations set forth from the beginning, then that is what you should abide by. If you can't, or don't want to, then you need to get out of the relationship. Cheating in this type of relationship can only result in pain and heartache to many people, not only is that not fair, but it's dishonest.

1337

08-11-2007, 05:44 PM

Well, if you beleive in religion, then cheating is a huge thing.

If you beleive in human nature, that isn't affected by religion, then you will realise, no matter WHO you are with, you will still be attracted to others.

I don't codone cheating nor promote, BUT, if you are the ones who want to soil their oats with as many or who ever you want, then don't be in a relationship with someone who wants to be monogomous.

It is human nature to be attracted to others, and want to have sex with different people unless you were brought up different and your morales and principals control your human nature!

§ienna

08-11-2007, 06:27 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: T-pot</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well, if you beleive in religion, then cheating is a huge thing.

If you beleive in human nature, that isn't affected by religion, then you will realise, no matter WHO you are with, you will still be attracted to others.

I don't codone cheating nor promote, BUT, if you are the ones who want to soil their oats with as many or who ever you want, then don't be in a relationship with someone who wants to be monogomous.

It is human nature to be attracted to others, and want to have sex with different people unless you were brought up different and your morales and principals control your human nature! </div></div>

So, are you saying that if you DON'T believe in religion, cheating is NOT a huge thing?

§ienna

08-11-2007, 06:29 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: T-pot</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well, if you beleive in religion, then cheating is a huge thing.

If you beleive in human nature, that isn't affected by religion, then you will realise, no matter WHO you are with, you will still be attracted to others.

I don't codone cheating nor promote, BUT, if you are the ones who want to soil their oats with as many or who ever you want, then don't be in a relationship with someone who wants to be monogomous.

It is human nature to be attracted to others, and want to have sex with different people unless you were brought up different and your morales and principals control your human nature! </div></div>

Hmmmm, well, I would call that fantasies, which is perfectly healthy, cheating in a monogamous relationship is NOT.

dancingqueen

08-11-2007, 06:36 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sienna</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: T-pot</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well, if you beleive in religion, then cheating is a huge thing.

If you beleive in human nature, that isn't affected by religion, then you will realise, no matter WHO you are with, you will still be attracted to others.

I don't codone cheating nor promote, BUT, if you are the ones who want to soil their oats with as many or who ever you want, then don't be in a relationship with someone who wants to be monogomous.

It is human nature to be attracted to others, and want to have sex with different people unless you were brought up different and your morales and principals control your human nature! </div></div>

So, are you saying that if you DON'T believe in religion, cheating is NOT a huge thing? </div></div>

no, I don't think he's saying that at all. He just said he dosen't condone it...
looks like what he is saying is if you are in a relationship and you don't want to be in one anymore, consider the feelings of the other person.
I may be wrong, correct me if I am T-pot

1337

08-11-2007, 06:43 PM

I'm just saying that if you aren't ready to be monogomous, don't be with someone who wants to be.

If you want to explore and do everyone and be in a relationship, then be with someone who shares the same views.

Because cheating leaves huge emotional scars.

I guess i'm saying, pick your partners better.

1337

08-11-2007, 06:44 PM

The Religion comes in with the monogomy.

Humans, by nature aren't mean to be monogomous. (Just my opinion).

Now if you are brought up differently, then obviously you view it different.

Just pick a partner accordingly.

1337

08-11-2007, 06:58 PM

Human nature, is human nature, always has and always will be what drives you.

Now, strong morales and principals are what stop you from cheating, because you all know that you still think other people are attractive.

kathy590

08-11-2007, 08:12 PM

Morals and principals, yeah, could'nt have said that better myself!

Ultra54

08-11-2007, 09:42 PM

No I wouldn't and haven't concidered it in 16 years.

kitty&mimi

08-11-2007, 10:21 PM

if my husband cheats on me then it's open season, no more rules...
but other than that absolutely not....

northern nomad

08-11-2007, 10:23 PM

you know whats kinda funny, there are those that believe in "open marriages"

are there any of those around here ?

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 10:26 PM

Is that the same as double standards? Cause I have those. /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif

1337

08-11-2007, 10:29 PM

Open marriages are good if thats what they want. They both have an understanding.

Its not cheating if your mate knows about it and encourages it.

Tippi will never cheat, but she does breathe heavily on my answering machine! LOL

tippikitty

08-11-2007, 10:35 PM

/ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif
Be careful of what you wish for. /ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/lol.gif

northern nomad

08-11-2007, 10:37 PM

Ya, thats what I'd tell her,....

if you join in then its no longer cheating !!!!!!!!!!!

lynys

08-12-2007, 12:06 PM

For what it's worth....

Those of us that WERE cheated on, DID our jobs.

You can't blame me for his actions. This was my BEST friend. We did everything together. Went everywhere, hung out, etc.

Some people do things for no real reason other than it happened. Could be some psychological thing going on in their head.

Meh. Life goes on from it.... but the scars are deep. (and, if we had not been that close, this would not have hurt as much as it did) After having felt used, dirty, sick, distraught, etc., both your body and mind are destroyed. After losing 25 pounds in one month.... I was not well. Thankfully I've put some of it back on.

Now to learn to trust again....

SusyQ

08-12-2007, 12:08 PM

You'll get through it lynys your already half way there.

adigirl

08-12-2007, 12:19 PM

{{{HUGS}}}

adigirl

08-12-2007, 12:21 PM

I'm not in an open relationship. Not my thing.

blueeyedgirl

08-12-2007, 12:28 PM

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: lynys</div><div class="ubbcode-body">For what it's worth....

Those of us that WERE cheated on, DID our jobs.

You can't blame me for his actions. This was my BEST friend. We did everything together. Went everywhere, hung out, etc.

Some people do things for no real reason other than it happened. Could be some psychological thing going on in their head.

Meh. Life goes on from it.... but the scars are deep. (and, if we had not been that close, this would not have hurt as much as it did) After having felt used, dirty, sick, distraught, etc., both your body and mind are destroyed. After losing 25 pounds in one month.... I was not well. Thankfully I've put some of it back on.

Now to learn to trust again.... </div></div>

I completely agree. Some will even tell you that their needs at home were being met and that they did it for the thrill and excitement. I would never ever cheat. If I happened to be unhappy in my relationship, I would walk away first before i put someone through that pain.