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LilPuppie
12-27-2010, 10:21 PM
I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on open relationships or swinging?

I've never been in one myself, but I know of quite a few couples who are...it seems there are many varying degrees of open relationships...from those who straight up believe in polygamy or polyamoury, to those who are with only each other but have 'friends' on the side, to those who would have threesomes, but only if both partners are involved, to those where one partner is into being open and the other isn't into it as much, but goes along with it to some degree.

I've never been in one myself, but I've been the 'third' with other couples. I could see myself being open to it, but so far never found myself with a partner who was as well. I'm not sure if I'd be secure enough to be 100% okay with it in all circumstances...I suppose it would depend on the relationship and the amount of confidence and trust you have in your partner.

What are everyone's thoughts on this?

Strife
12-27-2010, 10:34 PM
I really boils down to trust. For open relationships to work, there has to be a considerable amount of trust and boundaries set and strictly adhered to. Having sex with multiple people while in a relationship solves the want to cheat or have sex with others while still keeping the trust and honesty of the relationship. Some couples can do it and some cant, simple as that. I for one am pretty sure I could not swing or allow my partner to have friends with benefits on the side. Mind you I have been cheated on before so it kind of soured my taste of the whole idea.

Soonet-china
12-27-2010, 10:53 PM
Go ahead, thats not true love, its all about sex and variety

trakas
12-27-2010, 10:56 PM
so your saying you can't possibly love more then one person?

Macs II
12-27-2010, 10:58 PM
wow ...all these new members

Soonet-china
12-27-2010, 11:07 PM
so your saying you can't possibly love more then one person?

Yah, just like porn stars who are married or in relationships and or have families, its messed

bluekrissyspikes
12-27-2010, 11:11 PM
i'm good with monogamy... no need to add extra players to keep the game interesting. (:

trakas
12-27-2010, 11:12 PM
it works differently for everyone i suppose

Soonet-china
12-27-2010, 11:19 PM
Im sure every guy has dreamed of having a 3 some, including the loved one. Heres my take, what if the extra female is hot and better at sex and you give more attention to that woman, things will never be the same. For me, marriage or relationship is over right there.. I know i am venturing into another subject, also, what happens when you think about having sex with other woman all the time. Sure its normal, but its not good.

trakas
12-27-2010, 11:24 PM
but what if it doesnt happen that way, im not saying that doesnt happen by any means but you preclude the chance of it happening any other way, what if the 2 women are completely equal for instance or they offer different things both equally needed or desired?

Soonet-china
12-27-2010, 11:28 PM
Actually, i would love to have 2 women i loved equally and we did everything together and all 3 of us are cool about it. That would be awesome, chances of that happening,lol. Imagine, you come home from work where ever, 2 hot women waiting for you, dinners cooked, sit between them on the couch then its love time, oh god. I need 2 women, its settled.

trakas
12-27-2010, 11:30 PM
see however unlikely it may be theres always a possibility

IMHO
12-27-2010, 11:36 PM
I have enuf trub handling one woman...spare me the crowd. I do think its better to live together BEFORE marriage. Afterall...you even try shoes on before you buy them.

Giggle Squirt
12-27-2010, 11:41 PM
I have enuf trub handling one woman...spare me the crowd. I do think its better to live together BEFORE marriage. Afterall...you even try shoes on before you buy them.
No I usually send my husband to le chateau. He knows what size my feet are. No need to try before you buy!!! *wink*

dancingqueen
12-27-2010, 11:59 PM
Actually, i would love to have 2 women i loved equally and we did everything together and all 3 of us are cool about it. That would be awesome, chances of that happening,lol. Imagine, you come home from work where ever, 2 hot women waiting for you, dinners cooked, sit between them on the couch then its love time, oh god. I need 2 women, its settled.

Didn't you use to preach about the evils of pornographisising women?
I think you used to cite www.thepinkcross.org a lot...

Luv'inLife
12-28-2010, 12:06 AM
to each their own...

Soonet-china
12-28-2010, 12:07 AM
Didn't you use to preach about the evils of pornographisising women?
I think you used to cite www.thepinkcross.org a lot...

I see your point, stay with the same 2 women, thats safer

dancingqueen
12-28-2010, 12:24 AM
How would you feel if those two women, had a second man?

Soonet-china
12-28-2010, 12:33 AM
How would you feel if those two women, had a second man?

They wouldnt, just the 3 of us

dancingqueen
12-28-2010, 12:40 AM
Why not? surely whatever your reasons for wanting 2 wives are, they would also want two husbands... objectifying women does not end when they get married, and surely, you would not do such a thing would you?

Soonet-china
12-28-2010, 12:54 AM
Dq, bringing arguments and discussions since 19--? lol

everywoman
12-28-2010, 12:58 AM
I say to each their own as well. What does it matter to me what others do in the privacy of their own bedroom?

dancingqueen
12-28-2010, 12:59 AM
Dq, bringing arguments and discussions since 19--? lol

That's me :smile:

trakas
12-28-2010, 01:11 AM
whoa who said anything about wanting 2 wives i just want more than one woman that i can love multiples i dont need to marry someone to love them

dancingqueen
12-28-2010, 02:00 AM
Marriage is for religious people :tongue:

everywoman
12-28-2010, 02:02 AM
Hey! I'm not religious!!

Soonet-china
12-28-2010, 02:20 AM
i have been out of the game for so long, i need a dating book for dummies,lol

dancingqueen
12-28-2010, 05:51 AM
Hey! I'm not religious!!

Hmm, I thought you where for some reason. meh...
So, why did you get married then? :tongue:

The 6th Member Of AC/DC
12-28-2010, 06:00 AM
Greasy

everywoman
12-28-2010, 07:32 AM
Hmm, I thought you where for some reason. meh...
So, why did you get married then? :tongue:

Nope. Not at all. And I got married, cause I like the idea of publicly declaring my commitment, and I like wedding dresses!! And I also don't view a wedding ceremony as a religious event...

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 08:38 AM
What ever floats your boat I guess. If your marriage is strong enough to handle that sort of thing then go for it. If there are jelousy issues already in the relationship, then it will never work.

TNT
12-28-2010, 10:13 AM
I see some newbie young'uns have entered the soonet spider web.. lol :)

poor souls! :P

gouligann
12-28-2010, 10:30 AM
I see all you men have fantasies, but make no mention of a threesome with your partner and another man. I suppose that isn't ok being in bed with another man fondling your partner with you present?

IMO, whatever turns your crank, but don't expect it to be you and only just two women... your partner just might want to have another man involved. Does that change your way of thinking? Does it ruin your fantasy? What is fair, is fair.

bohd
12-28-2010, 10:36 AM
FUNNY YOU NEVER READ ABOUT ONE WOMEN AND 6 HUSBANDS LOL...(thats a joke gals, cuz i can hear it all now)

Anapeg
12-28-2010, 10:41 AM
Open relationships have a way of slamming shut. Having a fantasy is oft times better than living one. If it in point of fact takes that to "get you off" now then this will be but a stepping stone to bigger and better in the future. It makes one wonder where the Roman orgy got it's beginning does it not? Human nature is addictive and one leads to two, two leads to four, four leads to...........................

Peety
12-28-2010, 11:11 AM
FUNNY YOU NEVER READ ABOUT ONE WOMEN AND 6 HUSBANDS LOL...(thats a joke gals, cuz i can hear it all now)

Women are not insane.

MagicFingers
12-28-2010, 11:13 AM
There is a reason it is called FANTASY.....and that is where things (fantasies) should probably stay.... if when married or in a committed relationship and you start to think you NEED a threesome or to swing you really should question why you got married then.

However to each their own and if you feel you need it then what you do in your bedroom is up to you. But you really should look deeper as to why you need it.

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 11:14 AM
There is a reason it is called FANTASY.....and that is where things (fantasies) should probably stay.... if when married or in a committed relationship and you start to think you NEED a threesome or to swing you really should question why you got married then.

However to each their own and if you feel you need it then what you do in your bedroom is up to you. But you really should look deeper as to why you need it.

I disagree.

MagicFingers
12-28-2010, 11:18 AM
I disagree.

Ok as I said to each their own...this was JMO never said it was right just how I feel.

gouligann
12-28-2010, 11:54 AM
I disagree.

Personally, I agree with your disagreement, but that is only for my own marriage/relationship. It certainly has no place in my own little world.

There a lot of things that go on in this world that I disagree with, (and someone being gay is NOT one of them), but as long as it has no effect on me personally, or no one is getting hurt, hey goforit!

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 12:13 PM
Please elaborate!!!! :)

LOL...I knew that was coming...

Well...I don't agree that there is something wrong with the marriage/relationship if one or the other wants to have "an extra" in the bedroom. I have a nice vehicle and I'm happy with it but I wouldn't mind a mustang too :) In my post above, I did say that you must be comfortable in the marriage for it to work. If you have a jealous spouse then forget it!!
There is an awful lot of close mindedness out there! It's sex! Life is short!! Live it and have fun!

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 12:15 PM
OMG I can't believe I'm talking about this on Soonet.:zip::confused2:

Xzavia
12-28-2010, 12:53 PM
To each his own....

For me...no thanks! Years ago Hubby and I were at another couples house, having a few drinks, conversation and laughs. The conversation started to get kinda weird and Hubby was getting more and more uncomfortable, took a few minutes for me to replay everything being said in my mind (liquor has a way of doing weird things to me you know), anyway when it finally penetrated my foggy mind what they were getting at I realized why Hubby was getting uncomfortable and when he knew I realized what was going on neither one of us could get to the door fast enough.

We talked about it after and both of us were totaly not comfortable with going that route with them. They were hoping we could all get together and "see where it goes" from there. These were people we've known for years, yet we never had a clue. And in talking to others in our group of friends we learned they'd approached others to join them but we weren't the only ones not comfortable with it.

Like I said...to each his own.

MagicFingers
12-28-2010, 12:54 PM
LOL...Im am not closed minded....Im actually a very open minded person....I said you should look into why you feel you need it if you have chosen to be married. I really wouldn't compare my relationship to that of owning a car. But again that is just me.

Anapeg
12-28-2010, 01:16 PM
We now compare extra marital sex with multiple vehicle ownership? Really? Marriage, love and sex are that low on your list so as to equate with an extra vehicle such as a MUSTANG???

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 01:16 PM
I didn't mean you being close minded. It was a generalized statement. :) The car comment was just an example.

Giggle Squirt
12-28-2010, 01:25 PM
We now compare extra marital sex with multiple vehicle ownership? Really? Marriage, love and sex are that low on your list so as to equate with an extra vehicle such as a MUSTANG???

I know a Mustang eh? You could of picked something a little more relevant like a Formula 1 car

GreyWolf
12-28-2010, 01:30 PM
My opinion (and that's all it is, an opinion lol) is that cultures where polygamy and polyandry are the norm are often with a survival purpose and adhere to a certain cultural meaning. They do not have it because they are promiscious or need more "entertainment" and mostly they do not do it for love, but for survival of their family, money, etc.. (ex: More children to tend to the farm lands).

Since this culture is not too accepting of open relationships (polyamory) there are more obstacles to face and likely to cause a few more problems then it will solve. It's not a lifestyle for everyone and certainly wouldn't be for me, but to each his/her own.

Scoff
12-28-2010, 02:56 PM
OMG I can't believe I'm talking about this on Soonet.:zip::confused2:

Ya for sure ... does "D" know you feel this way? ;)

Anyways, I have fantasies too but I would not live them out with my g/f or spouse if I had a spouse. As someone stated before, she may agree to another woman in the bed and then somewhere down the road she'll turn around and say "My turn!".

Yep, that's where the fantasy stops. I believe once you start doing stuff like this you're not in a relationship anymore ... you're merely good **** friends. We've all had those. I'm under the firm belief that if you are looking for something else then you're not truly happy. I would say "swingers" never really fell in love, how could you watch your loved one being handled by another? Something screwy there in my personal opinion. If I have no real emotional feelings for someone I'll let my friends in on the tag-team but no way in hell would it have ever been with someone I cared about.

Whatever you need to float your boat though. Whatever keeps your relationship alive.

R W G R
12-28-2010, 02:58 PM
Anyways, I have fantasies too

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

LilPuppie
12-28-2010, 04:22 PM
What ever floats your boat I guess. If your marriage is strong enough to handle that sort of thing then go for it. If there are jelousy issues already in the relationship, then it will never work.


This is my thoughts on the matter...for me it would depend on the relationship :)

Barry Morris
12-28-2010, 04:33 PM
Gee, no statistics as to how well these relationships work, including the live-in vs marriage failure rate.

Of course, I really don't wonder why.

R W G R
12-28-2010, 04:43 PM
Gee, no statistics as to how well these relationships work, including the live-in vs marriage failure rate.

Of course, I really don't wonder why.

Seeing as 50% of all Christian marriages end in divorce I don't think this is an issue you want to come into over-confident.

SIMBA
12-28-2010, 04:51 PM
Ya for sure ... does "D" know you feel this way? ;)

Anyways, I have fantasies too but I would not live them out with my g/f or spouse if I had a spouse. As someone stated before, she may agree to another woman in the bed and then somewhere down the road she'll turn around and say "My turn!".

Yep, that's where the fantasy stops. I believe once you start doing stuff like this you're not in a relationship anymore ... you're merely good **** friends. We've all had those. I'm under the firm belief that if you are looking for something else then you're not truly happy. I would say "swingers" never really fell in love, how could you watch your loved one being handled by another? Something screwy there in my personal opinion. If I have no real emotional feelings for someone I'll let my friends in on the tag-team but no way in hell would it have ever been with someone I cared about.

Whatever you need to float your boat though. Whatever keeps your relationship alive.

He certainly does know!!!! :):)

The 6th Member Of AC/DC
12-28-2010, 05:09 PM
Greasy

The only opinion that matters!!

vixen
12-28-2010, 07:26 PM
What if one person in the marriage does not have the same level of sex drive or just is not that into it. and both agree that a venture out is a good idea?

everywoman
12-28-2010, 07:31 PM
My opinion (and that's all it is, an opinion lol) is that cultures where polygamy and polyandry are the norm are often with a survival purpose and adhere to a certain cultural meaning. They do not have it because they are promiscious or need more "entertainment" and mostly they do not do it for love, but for survival of their family, money, etc.. (ex: More children to tend to the farm lands).

Since this culture is not too accepting of open relationships (polyamory) there are more obstacles to face and likely to cause a few more problems then it will solve. It's not a lifestyle for everyone and certainly wouldn't be for me, but to each his/her own.

Great answer. After reading all of the responses, I was just about to say something to that effect. We are very closed minded sometimes, to other ways of life. It may not work for some, but that does not mean that it does not work.

MaO3
12-28-2010, 07:37 PM
To each thier own I say. It wouldn't be at the top of my list of things to do but what the heck. If a couple thinks that they can deal with it and want to give it a shot - its totally up to them. What people do in the privacy of thier bedroom is not my concern.

That being said, I "Know" it wouldn't work in our marriage - cause seriously I'm a meanbith and I'd never tolerate another woman, and I've never been interested in having a second man in my bed either. Just doesn't appeal to me.

Barry Morris
12-28-2010, 07:51 PM
I'm only aware of few places where multiple wives, spouses, polymory, polyandry are practiced.

Fundamentalist Mormaons are one. Will anyone care to contend that everyone involved is content with their situation??

Another is in Islam. Multiple wives. Of course, we are all aware of the rights of women over there.

Does anyone have specific examples in mind??

MagicFingers
12-28-2010, 08:17 PM
My best friend is muslim from egypt. She says they have multiple wives for the reasons that were already stated. Partially because the death rate was so high they wanted to make sure that there were heirs....Also because they were in war so often historically that they needed a high population and someone to carry on the name so they took on more wives. Thats how she explained it to me.

SmrtGrl
12-28-2010, 11:55 PM
what if one person in the relationship is bisexual? I'd like to think that i'd be open enough to my partner if he told me he was bisexual to allow him to take care of his needs seeing as i'd lack the physical ability to do so. Therels just some situations when it comes to our sexual appetites that need a bit more open mindedness than others.

dancingqueen
12-29-2010, 12:52 AM
what if one person in the relationship is bisexual? I'd like to think that i'd be open enough to my partner if he told me he was bisexual to allow him to take care of his needs seeing as i'd lack the physical ability to do so. Therels just some situations when it comes to our sexual appetites that need a bit more open mindedness than others.

Bisexuality is not a reason to allow your partner to have multiple partners. It's not like bisexuals crave action from men and women... it just means they are sexually attracted to either genders. Just as men tend to be attracted to women, and men tend to be attracted to females in a heterosexual perspective.

dancingqueen
12-29-2010, 12:55 AM
My opinion (and that's all it is, an opinion lol) is that cultures where polygamy and polyandry are the norm are often with a survival purpose and adhere to a certain cultural meaning. They do not have it because they are promiscious or need more "entertainment" and mostly they do not do it for love, but for survival of their family, money, etc.. (ex: More children to tend to the farm lands).

Since this culture is not too accepting of open relationships (polyamory) there are more obstacles to face and likely to cause a few more problems then it will solve. It's not a lifestyle for everyone and certainly wouldn't be for me, but to each his/her own.

Well, we like to say we do it for love, in fact our motivations for relationships are not that much unlike these other cultures you speak of.

Soonet-china
12-29-2010, 01:33 AM
Bisexuality is not a reason to allow your partner to have multiple partners. It's not like bisexuals crave action from men and women... it just means they are sexually attracted to either genders. Just as men tend to be attracted to women, and men tend to be attracted to females in a heterosexual perspective.

or some will do anything to get off

Soonet-china
12-29-2010, 01:56 AM
Bisexuality is not a reason to allow your partner to have multiple partners. It's not like bisexuals crave action from men and women... it just means they are sexually attracted to either genders. Just as men tend to be attracted to women, and men tend to be attracted to females in a heterosexual perspective.

DQ, you state bisexuals dont crave action from men and women, then you state, bisexuals are attracted to both genders. Bisexuals crave action from both genders, is that what you meant?

GreyWolf
12-29-2010, 02:54 PM
DQ, you state bisexuals dont crave action from men and women, then you state, bisexuals are attracted to both genders. Bisexuals crave action from both genders, is that what you meant?

What i would think DQ was trying to get at, and I don't kow for sure, is that just because someone is attracted to both doesn't mean they need to be satisfied by both. Just as a man who is straight doesn't need every type of woman he is attracted to (slim, curvy, brown hair, blond hair, brown eyes, blue yes etc)-he can still be in a monogymous relationship happily without all the options. ..am I close?

MagicFingers
12-29-2010, 03:06 PM
I don't know what DQ meant but I would think that is what he meant and I would agree with it. Just because a person is attracted to both doesn't mean that must fill the sexual NEED of both. i don't know if I am bisexual or not but I have been attracted to some women in the past. Doesn't mean I acted on it nor does it mean that I NEED to have that attraction satisfied. I do choose males (my husband to be specific). However I am open minded enough that had the person I fell in love with been a woman that would have been ok to. I guess I am saying I have been attracted to women but didn't fall in love with them so I didn't choose to spend my life with them.

1337
12-29-2010, 03:20 PM
LOL...Im am not closed minded....Im actually a very open minded person....I said you should look into why you feel you need it if you have chosen to be married. I really wouldn't compare my relationship to that of owning a car. But again that is just me.

Marriage isn't just about sex. Most couples go out with friends to movies, play golf, swimming lessons, cooking lessons and so on. Sex is just a part of the marriage, and just just like any other part of the marriage, could be shared. The view of sexual relationships are strictly on the couples in questions. If one person is cool with it, doens't mean all are.

To say "If you want to have sex with others, why'd you get married?" isn't really valid. That would be like asking why did they get married if they like going golfing with the guys. Sex isnt everything about marriage, and marriage isn't everything about sex. It is only as intimate was 1 couple makes it.

1337
12-29-2010, 03:22 PM
We now compare extra marital sex with multiple vehicle ownership? Really? Marriage, love and sex are that low on your list so as to equate with an extra vehicle such as a MUSTANG???

Yet again, marriage is about love. Not about sex. If you make it about sex, that is your thing. Marriage is about love and union. I don't know any wedding vows that had the word sex in it. Society makes sex exclusive.

MagicFingers
12-29-2010, 03:32 PM
Marriage isn't just about sex. Most couples go out with friends to movies, play golf, swimming lessons, cooking lessons and so on. Sex is just a part of the marriage, and just just like any other part of the marriage, could be shared. The view of sexual relationships are strictly on the couples in questions. If one person is cool with it, doens't mean all are.

To say "If you want to have sex with others, why'd you get married?" isn't really valid. That would be like asking why did they get married if they like going golfing with the guys. Sex is everything about marriage, and marriage isn't everything about sex. It is only as intimate was 1 couple makes it.

And if you read all my posts you would see I said. My opinion and I equate it to ME and my relationships. I never judged anyone, just questions for people to think of...and if they think of those questions and everything still is fine and they choose it...so be it...I could care less. Its just not MY thing

1337
12-29-2010, 03:37 PM
I'm sorry Magic, but it does go beyond your opinion when you said


I said you should look into why you feel you need it if you have chosen to be married

You are telling people that they should look into why they got married if they feel the need for extra martial fun. No? To me, that is more than an opinion.

MagicFingers
12-29-2010, 03:50 PM
NO my opinion is just as I said....if you feel you need extramarital fun then perhaps you need to explore why...if you and your spouse are ok with it then so be it. Does it hurt to delv deeper into why you feel you need or want things. Bigger question is is it a NEED or a WANT and are they one in the same?

1337
12-29-2010, 04:00 PM
NO my opinion is just as I said....if you feel you need extramarital fun then perhaps you need to explore why...if you and your spouse are ok with it then so be it. Does it hurt to delv deeper into why you feel you need or want things. Bigger question is is it a NEED or a WANT and are they one in the same?

Throwing the word 'perhaps' into the mix doesn't make it better. Your original statement said that people should look into. Then you reworded it to perhaps they should.

Anyway, i catch your drift.

Ultra54
12-29-2010, 04:13 PM
Here is my opinion is that it is possible to have sex with many people but it isn't possible to love many partners the same way. It isn't necessarily natural to stay with one partner ones whole life but when you are with that one person, monogamy is the best solution.

1337
12-29-2010, 04:32 PM
Here is my opinion is that it is possible to have sex with many people but it isn't possible to love many partners the same way. It isn't necessarily natural to stay with one partner ones whole life but when you are with that one person, monogamy is the best solution.

Your right, it is impossible to love 2 partners the same way. Doesn't matter if you meet them the same time, or 20 years apart.

** Edited to say : But you can still have sex with them the same.

Cher
12-29-2010, 06:39 PM
Whatever works for couples, provided they are both comfortable with it isn't anyone else's business...
www.swinglifestyle.com is an informative site for those who have questions about the "lifestyle"

KDawg
12-29-2010, 07:01 PM
Bisexuality is not a reason to allow your partner to have multiple partners. It's not like bisexuals crave action from men and women... it just means they are sexually attracted to either genders. Just as men tend to be attracted to women, and men tend to be attracted to females in a heterosexual perspective.

"Could you imagine wanting to Boink everybody you meet? Think of all the phone numbers you'd accumulate! You might as well just walk around the White Pages under your arm."
~George Carlin

The 6th Member Of AC/DC
12-29-2010, 07:39 PM
This stupid thread has to go. If you want to talk about this crap go to a swinger's party or some other $hit show and carry on with this stupidity....

Amaranth
12-29-2010, 10:46 PM
This stupid thread has to go. If you want to talk about this crap go to a swinger's party or some other $hit show and carry on with this stupidity....

I agree!

everywoman
12-29-2010, 10:55 PM
Why? At least it's a topic of substance. I know.....let's talk about what's open New Years Day!!

Soonet-china
12-30-2010, 01:20 AM
this stupid thread has to go. If you want to talk about this crap go to a swinger's party or some other $hit show and carry on with this stupidity....

lmmfao

Soonet-china
12-30-2010, 02:38 AM
Yet again, marriage is about love. Not about sex. If you make it about sex, that is your thing. Marriage is about love and union. I don't know any wedding vows that had the word sex in it. Society makes sex exclusive.

marriage isnt about sex, what? Who do you think you are saying things like that,lol

Barry Morris
12-30-2010, 08:54 AM
marriage isnt about sex, what? Who do you think you are saying things like that,lol

Maybe he's been married 40 years, like me, and he knows a thing or two.

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 10:58 AM
What i would think DQ was trying to get at, and I don't kow for sure, is that just because someone is attracted to both doesn't mean they need to be satisfied by both. Just as a man who is straight doesn't need every type of woman he is attracted to (slim, curvy, brown hair, blond hair, brown eyes, blue yes etc)-he can still be in a monogymous relationship happily without all the options. ..am I close?

Yes, that is exactly what I was trying to say... I'm just terrible with finding the right words :confused2:

chris5
12-30-2010, 11:32 AM
Why is it we like to criticize others views on sexuality... If a couple decides to embark on a journey to expand their sex lives... well that is up to the couple in question... getting a diverse group of people to share their opinions on this subject may be what the op needs...

I personally would love to do the two woman thingy... Never have but after this thread, im adding it to my bucket list...Would not be interested in doing the two man one woman thingy though... But that is just me... Growing up a two man one woman was called a gang bang... and a two woman one man thingy was called a menage a twois.... I think that says it all...

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 09:47 PM
three guys is waaaaaaay better, you guys are missin' out :tongue:

Blunt
12-30-2010, 09:51 PM
three guys is waaaaaaay better, you guys are missin' out :tongue:

.......gross

Soonet-china
12-30-2010, 09:55 PM
three guys is waaaaaaay better, you guys are missin' out :tongue:

And you know because, never mind,lol

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 09:58 PM
.......gross

Don't knock it till you've tried it :smile:

Striker
12-30-2010, 10:02 PM
three guys is waaaaaaay better, you guys are missin' out :tongue:

You've made it clear you're gay. Please save the advertising for the personel adds..........buddy

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 10:04 PM
oh look, it's my personal stalker guys!!!!
hey buddy!

Soonet-china
12-30-2010, 10:11 PM
oh look, it's my personal stalker guys!!!!
hey buddy!
(now watch, as I step over here.....)

im jealous, you have a stalker, at least some one is paying attention to you,lol

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 10:12 PM
he can't help it. :smile:

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 10:19 PM
fyi Striker... I find it interesting that you didn't make this comment at anyone else feeling the desire to re-assert their sexuality.
Guess it's hard to notice when you are speaking from a privileged position eh?

Striker
12-30-2010, 10:22 PM
fyi Striker... I find it interesting that you didn't make this comment at anyone else feeling the desire to re-assert their sexuality.
Guess it's hard to notice when you are speaking from a privileged position eh?

I just find you and your comments disgusting. Other than that , you're OK

dancingqueen
12-30-2010, 10:26 PM
so, if I re-assert my sexuality, it's disgusting, but if straight people do, it's fine?
No, you're prejudice. accept it, move on.
G'night my little stalker

italiandomino
12-30-2010, 10:34 PM
so, if I re-assert my sexuality, it's disgusting, but if straight people do, it's fine?
No, you're prejudice. accept it, move on.
G'night my little stalker

and you have ever right to say eww when straight ppl say it to.

Striker
12-30-2010, 10:55 PM
and you have ever right to say eww when straight ppl say it to.

:pclap::pclap::pclap:

And we won't pout like little school girls.

MagicFingers
12-30-2010, 11:01 PM
I just find you and your comments disgusting. Other than that , you're OK

I find your comments disgusting! I can't stand it when people make comments about someone without ever having met them and making generalized statments such as they are disgusting. Really just shows what type of person you are.

Striker
12-30-2010, 11:06 PM
I find your comments disgusting! I can't stand it when people make comments about someone without ever having met them and making generalized statments such as they are disgusting. Really just shows what type of person you are.

I'm happy for you and thanks for your comments, but realize your words have no value to me.

MagicFingers
12-30-2010, 11:29 PM
I'm happy for you and thanks for your comments, but realize your words have no value to me.

Thats pretty apparent.....if you can say such disgusting words apparently you wouldn't care about the impact of your words on others so what would you care what others have to say about you. Something you can be soooo proud of. Guess you were never taught tolerance and acceptance of others who are different.

1337
12-30-2010, 11:33 PM
three guys is waaaaaaay better, you guys are missin' out :tongue:

They fit together like lego's that way...

Striker
12-30-2010, 11:41 PM
Thats pretty apparent.....if you can say such disgusting words apparently you wouldn't care about the impact of your words on others so what would you care what others have to say about you. Something you can be soooo proud of. Guess you were never taught tolerance and acceptance of others who are different.

You are correct..........your post had no effect.

Cher
12-31-2010, 08:56 AM
In ANY event, hope EVERYONE- whether you are straight, gay, bisexual, swinger, or OTHER, has a very HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Ultra54
12-31-2010, 10:23 AM
It is fascinating, sexuality, especially the fact of the huge double triple standard that exists about homosexuality. Female homosexuality is celebrated above all else where heterosexuality is regarded as boring and male homosexuality is regarded as disgusting. We are so simple too. You only have to look at tv sitcoms to notice the importance. Two and a Half men and The Adventures of Old Christine would be dead in the water if it wasn't for the constant sexual references. Sex sells and the exploitation of women sells. It is strange how many women cry foul about this exploitation yet many use it to there advantage, showing another double standard. As has been said time and time again, the womans power is in the *****.....period. That didn't sound right.

Ultra54
12-31-2010, 10:26 AM
My god, this forum has become ridiculous in its censorship. The words that get blocked out are ok on sesame street today, yet who ever the holly rollers in charge here deem them evil....lol. The other day I typed d i c k and now today p u s s y.

chris5
12-31-2010, 11:04 AM
I'm happy for you and thanks for your comments, but realize your words have no value to me.

OMG... You make 20 word posts that are usually links to somethng that is not relevant.. You try to come accross as someone with an IQ but in reality you are a red neck.... Why dont you do us all a favour and delete your account... You make no difference here... You will probably be the first person I push the ignore button... and I urge all soonetters who feel the same to do the same... You existence has no value to those of us who use this site to express our opinions and thoughts... You are an annoyance.... Kinda like a red light... Other than that you have no power here BUDDY....

chris5
12-31-2010, 11:07 AM
My god, this forum has become ridiculous in its censorship. The words that get blocked out are ok on sesame street today, yet who ever the holly rollers in charge here deem them evil....lol. The other day I typed d i c k and now today p u s s y.

That is too funny... Had that happen to me too... It is automatic and the bad words are a set of default words that came with the site software... I agree though... You seem to have found a work around... LOL

chris5
12-31-2010, 11:12 AM
In ANY event, hope EVERYONE- whether you are straight, gay, bisexual, swinger, or OTHER, has a very HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Happy New Years to you too Cher.... Me thinks me likes you...

dancingqueen
12-31-2010, 11:57 AM
and you have ever right to say eww when straight ppl say it to.

yep, I do... and I never said he didn't....
What's your point?
like I said, can we just move on?

Striker
12-31-2010, 12:04 PM
OMG... You make 20 word posts that are usually links to somethng that is not relevant.. You try to come accross as someone with an IQ but in reality you are a red neck.... Why dont you do us all a favour and delete your account... You make no difference here... You will probably be the first person I push the ignore button... and I urge all soonetters who feel the same to do the same... You existence has no value to those of us who use this site to express our opinions and thoughts... You are an annoyance.... Kinda like a red light... Other than that you have no power here BUDDY....


So did you push the ignore button? If so, enjoy the other posters.

R W G R
12-31-2010, 12:08 PM
What's your vector, Victor?

chris5
12-31-2010, 01:39 PM
so, if I re-assert my sexuality, it's disgusting, but if straight people do, it's fine?
No, you're prejudice. accept it, move on.
G'night my little stalker

DQ... Please dont feed the animals.... They beg for more if you feed them....

Striker
12-31-2010, 01:45 PM
DQ... Please dont feed the animals.... They beg for more if you feed them....

Can you explain the effectiveness of name calling? If so, please explain

SIMBA
12-31-2010, 01:51 PM
Your are an idiot... You make 20 word posts that are usually links to somethng that is not relevant.. You try to come accross as someone with an IQ but in reality you are a red neck.... Why dont you do us all a favour and delete your account... You make no difference here... You will probably be the first person I push the ignore button... and I urge all soonetters who feel the same to do the same... You existence has no value to those of us who use this site to express our opinions and thoughts... You are an annoyance.... Kinda like a red light... Other than that you have no power here BUDDY....


I swear we are related. :)

chris5
12-31-2010, 01:52 PM
Can you explain the effectiveness of name calling? If so, please explain

Cause I think you are a redneck... Intolerant people are people I just cant tolerate.... If that makes any sense... Any time you want to battle... Just pull out your squirt gun and Ill pull out my nine mill... Im done with you.... If you dont know why I find you offensive then we have nothing to talk about...Karma is a funny thing...

Cher
12-31-2010, 02:33 PM
:) Why do other people care so much about what people do with their OWN genitals.. geeessshhh.. lol

MagicFingers
12-31-2010, 02:39 PM
I swear we are related. :)

I feel the same....

Striker
12-31-2010, 03:40 PM
:) Why do other people care so much about what people do with their OWN genitals.. geeessshhh.. lol

Can't say I care much.........just don't advertise

Striker
12-31-2010, 03:42 PM
Cause I think you are a redneck...

Ill pull out my nine mill... Im done with you....

I thought rednecks would be more likely to talk about guns

chris5
12-31-2010, 03:46 PM
I thought rednecks would be more likely to talk about guns

I didnt know that, guess it takes one to know one...

Soonet-china
12-31-2010, 03:49 PM
I have an outhouse in front of house where i put the garbage for city pickup

KDawg
01-01-2011, 01:46 PM
OMG... You make 20 word posts that are usually links to somethng that is not relevant.. You try to come accross as someone with an IQ but in reality you are a red neck.... Why dont you do us all a favour and delete your account... You make no difference here... You will probably be the first person I push the ignore button... and I urge all soonetters who feel the same to do the same... You existence has no value to those of us who use this site to express our opinions and thoughts... You are an annoyance.... Kinda like a red light... Other than that you have no power here BUDDY....And Striker can't express his.

You think a post that conveys intolerance should be deleted and yet you're tolerant...:confused2: I find people who pat each other on the back for being oh so tolerant, to be an annoyance.

Peety
01-01-2011, 01:49 PM
I have an outhouse in front of house where i put the garbage for city pickup

Hey! I have a outhouse.

chris5
01-01-2011, 01:54 PM
And Striker can't express his.

You think a post that conveys intolerance should be deleted and yet you're tolerant...:confused2: I find people who pat each other on the back for being oh so tolerant, to be an annoyance.

wow how insightful... Glad to see you boys hang out in each others corners... and that I have managed to effect you...Im smilin...

riggs
01-01-2011, 04:30 PM
And Striker can't express his.

Apparently there's little tolerance for a difference in opinion. It was met with hostility by more than one poster.

Then again, this is Soonet.

chris5
01-01-2011, 04:59 PM
Apparently there's little tolerance for a difference in opinion. It was met with hostility by more than one poster.

Then again, this is Soonet.

From all that you have read what exactly do you think the difference of opinion was...

riggs
01-02-2011, 11:21 AM
OMG... You make 20 word posts that are usually links to somethng that is not relevant.. You try to come accross as someone with an IQ but in reality you are a red neck.... Why dont you do us all a favour and delete your account... You make no difference here... You will probably be the first person I push the ignore button... and I urge all soonetters who feel the same to do the same... You existence has no value to those of us who use this site to express our opinions and thoughts... You are an annoyance.... Kinda like a red light... Other than that you have no power here BUDDY....



From all that you have read what exactly do you think the difference of opinion was...

The opinion takes a back seat to the lack of tolerance. An opinion was stated (could have been worded better) and you, who claims to hate intolerance were urging all of Soonet to put the redneck on ignore. There was obviously more to it as it was edited by M-boy.

You met intolerance with intolerance.

1337
01-02-2011, 11:49 AM
Cause I think you are a redneck... Intolerant people are people I just cant tolerate.... If that makes any sense... Any time you want to battle... Just pull out your squirt gun and Ill pull out my nine mill... Im done with you.... If you dont know why I find you offensive then we have nothing to talk about...Karma is a funny thing...

You're intolerant of intolerance?

riggs
01-02-2011, 12:42 PM
Any time you want to battle... Just pull out your squirt gun and Ill pull out my nine mill...

Now you're going to shoot him and people agree with you?...Wow!!

So much for tolerance. lol

chris5
01-02-2011, 12:44 PM
The opinion takes a back seat to the lack of tolerance. An opinion was stated (could have been worded better) and you, who claims to hate intolerance were urging all of Soonet to put the redneck on ignore. There was obviously more to it as it was edited by M-boy.

You met intolerance with intolerance.

My comment had nothing to do with an opinion... it is what striker said about someone else... seems to me you have a bone to pick.. feel free... Im willing to defent everything I said except calling him and idiot... wont do that again... But unless you know what you are defending how can you really have a point to make... If you are going to argue against my opinion that striker is a redneck you should know exactly why I called him a redneck... But my problem is with him not you so unless you have something relevent to say..............And you bet I meet intolerance with intolerance... most normal people do...It is one thing to be intolerant of someone cause they are a racist or a bigot or even a redneck... but it is another thing to be intolerant as a result of being a racist, bigot or redneck.... And riggs just so you know Im not going to do another five pages with you cause you feel like arguing about nothing... I said my piece to striker and for me its over...

riggs
01-02-2011, 01:03 PM
My comment had nothing to do with an opinion... it is what striker said about someone else... seems to me you have a bone to pick.. feel free... Im willing to defent everything I said except calling him and idiot... wont do that again... But unless you know what you are defending how can you really have a point to make... If you are going to argue against my opinion that striker is a redneck you should know exactly why I called him a redneck... But my problem is with him not you so unless you have something relevent to say..............And you bet I meet intolerance with intolerance... most normal people do...It is one thing to be intolerant of someone cause they are a racist or a bigot or even a redneck... but it is another thing to be intolerant as a result of being a racist, bigot or redneck.... And riggs just so you know Im not going to do another five pages with you cause you feel like arguing about nothing... I said my piece to striker and for me its over...

Surely you can make a point against intolerance without mob mentality, use of handguns and intolerance?

Peety
01-02-2011, 01:12 PM
There is simply too much :love: around here, I can't stand it!

I think it is wonderful.

chris5
01-02-2011, 01:12 PM
Now you're going to shoot him and people agree with you?...Wow!!

So much for tolerance. lol

Ever heard of an analogy... I think you are discussing more than what is going on in this thread... Got a grudge.... then say it... If you were following like the people that agreed were following maybe you would understand... Not sure what your point is buy picking this stuff apart... sounds to me like you got a bone to pick.. That is something that makes me happy... seems maybe I hit a nerve somewhere in our past discussions... fire away riggs...

If I didnt know better Id think you were picking my posts apart, then implying I said something I didnt say, in a feeble attempt to make me look bad.... Doesnt bother me at all... im sure im not the only one who knows your stance on the issues we have debated in the past....

chris5
01-02-2011, 01:15 PM
Surely you can make a point against intolerance without mob mentality, use of handguns and intolerance?

You make no sense at all... im not going to argure nonsense with you.... if you have a point make it.... That is probably your problem... as usual... you have no point to make... I know what its like to battle nonsense... Ive debated you on other issues whith the same outcome... Not going to fill five pages of crap with you... CIAO Riggs...

Upper Decker
01-02-2011, 01:40 PM
Word of the week is:

Hypocracy!

Love it when complete idiots get all self righteous like this.

tippikitty
01-02-2011, 06:55 PM
Can we get back to talkin about all the love....2somes 3somes 1somes.....it's all about love lol.

Cher
01-02-2011, 07:48 PM
Can we get back to talkin about all the love....2somes 3somes 1somes.....it's all about love lol.
Sigh... not on soonet, I'm afraid.. :p

dancingqueen
01-02-2011, 08:33 PM
Can we get back to talkin about all the love....2somes 3somes 1somes.....it's all about love lol.

So as not to risk offending some members it looks like the only 3somes, 2somes, and 1somes that can be discussed involve ******s and boobies, I'm afraid I'm not much help there since I have been out of the loop for so long :confused2:

mboy67
01-02-2011, 08:38 PM
ok enough guys please stay on topic. from this point on all off topic posts will get removed.

dancingqueen
01-02-2011, 08:43 PM
FYI, last relevant post was on page 4....
I've always wondered why we mesh love and sex together, I mean we love our mothers right? Our brothers, sisters... There is only one instance where love and sex cross, and that is in a relationship. what about all the other cases of love? We also love things, as well as people. like chocolate, or snuggling by a warm fire on a cold night etc... none of these things involve sex.

dancingqueen
01-02-2011, 08:47 PM
your brothers and sisters lead back to sex?
wait a sec... your from Goulias? :tongue:

Peety
01-02-2011, 08:48 PM
your brothers and sisters lead back to sex?
wait a sec... your from Goulias? :tongue:

like chocolate, or snuggling by a warm fire on a cold night

tippikitty
01-03-2011, 11:24 AM
your brothers and sisters lead back to sex?
wait a sec... your from Goulias? :tongue:

:slol:

1some, 2some, 3some with any sex is good with me. I don't care what goes on in others bedroom ........unless I was there to watch. LOL

SIMBA
01-03-2011, 11:55 AM
lol..:)

1337
01-03-2011, 12:46 PM
Just had my 3rd 1some for the day!

everywoman
01-03-2011, 01:10 PM
lmao!

Soonet-china
01-03-2011, 04:31 PM
Just had my 3rd 1some for the day!

Thats great, news reports of your masterbation, wtf

mboy67
01-03-2011, 04:46 PM
Tmi tmi tmi

Ultra54
01-03-2011, 04:50 PM
A onesome can also be called a lonesome.

Peety
01-03-2011, 06:58 PM
As long as it is fun who are we to judge.

LilPuppie
01-03-2011, 08:55 PM
As long as it is fun who are we to judge.

My thoughts exactly! If I were in a committed relationship I don't know that I could be as cavalier as some, but I do enjoy my fun!

BrAt
01-03-2011, 11:34 PM
FYI, last relevant post was on page 4....
I've always wondered why we mesh love and sex together, I mean we love our mothers right? Our brothers, sisters... There is only one instance where love and sex cross, and that is in a relationship. what about all the other cases of love? We also love things, as well as people. like chocolate, or snuggling by a warm fire on a cold night etc... none of these things involve sex.

Just as not all sex involves love. :P

dancingqueen
01-04-2011, 05:40 AM
of course not. I'm curious what the thoughts of some of the naysayers would be on my comment :) I'm open to corrections

Ultra54
01-04-2011, 10:34 AM
As long as it is fun who are we to judge.


Now thats a can of worms isn't it? Some find it fun having sex with children or animals so we can't apply the quoted phrase to every situation.Obviously there are situations where we do and have to make judgements and you can't walk around with the la..di..da attitude of "oh well.....it's non of my concern, it's a perfect world and I have all the solutions...I like my head in the sand just fine thank you...."....:)

Ultra54
01-04-2011, 10:42 AM
of course not. I'm curious what the thoughts of some of the naysayers would be on my comment :) I'm open to corrections


I'd love to see who would dare to refute that....come on...expose yourselves for what you are...you naive little things you.

Peety
01-04-2011, 10:46 AM
Now thats a can of worms isn't it? Some find it fun having sex with children or animals so we can't apply the quoted phrase to every situation.Obviously there are situations where we do and have to make judgements and you can't walk around with the la..di..da attitude of "oh well.....it's non of my concern, it's a perfect world and I have all the solutions...I like my head in the sand just fine thank you...."....:)

What? I was replying to 1337.LOL
Just had my 3rd 1some for the day!

Ultra54
01-04-2011, 10:56 AM
What? I was replying to 1337.LOL

Sorry, not singling out anybody, more of a blanket statement of the sentiment of many on this topic.

Cher
01-04-2011, 05:57 PM
How about IF IT HARMS NONE, do what you want?? :p

Jack Butler
01-05-2011, 03:36 PM
“If you take couples that are in an open marriage where monogamy has been set aside . . . they’re way more successful than monogamous couples. They divorce at such low rates,” Biderman claimed. “So right away, we see that monogamy is a major factor in the separation of couples.”

http://www.thestar.com/entertainment/article/916132--shania-twain-and-the-history-of-the-love-rectangle

When I read it, I thought of this thread.

tippikitty
01-05-2011, 05:50 PM
To each their own. I'm a jealous person so I could never share my partner.

ProfessorZed
01-06-2011, 10:12 AM
Wow, I disappear for...ok, a long time...and I come back to this? It's like giftmas all over again! :D

I have to admit, I'm a little disappointed at the way so many people think multiple partners = all about sex (much the same way as some still hold on to the same notion about gay couples). It's like every relationship that isn't heteromonogamous has the power to magically erase every other part of life: paying the bills, getting the kids off to school, etc. I mean, sure, swinging is one thing, and it's out there, and as with most things, I figure if everyone involved is a consenting adult, all is well.

Not all plural relationships, or even most, are just about playtime, though; nor are they primarily based on patriarchal religion (FLDS, some varieties of Islam, etc.). There are plenty of families with more than two adults, romantically involved in various configurations, who maintain households and raise kids together. It's not impossible.

On the other hand, plural (I prefer plural to open, because many such relationships are polyfidelitous) relationships aren't for everyone. I have a suspicion that just as any given person is hardwired to be attracted to just men, just women, or both, any given person can also have a natural affinity for monogamy or polyamory, and a poly person in a mono relationship is never really going to be comfortable (and vice versa). It takes a whole lot of open communication and honesty, more than most people can handle in a society where we're trained to play games with each other, but it can work.

I hope that wasn't too choppy -- I kept having to stop and consider that not everybody has done all the research I have. :)

gouligann
01-06-2011, 10:51 AM
Wow, I disappear for...ok, a long time...and I come back to this? It's like giftmas all over again! :D

I have to admit, I'm a little disappointed at the way so many people think multiple partners = all about sex (much the same way as some still hold on to the same notion about gay couples). It's like every relationship that isn't heteromonogamous has the power to magically erase every other part of life: paying the bills, getting the kids off to school, etc. I mean, sure, swinging is one thing, and it's out there, and as with most things, I figure if everyone involved is a consenting adult, all is well.

Not all plural relationships, or even most, are just about playtime, though; nor are they primarily based on patriarchal religion (FLDS, some varieties of Islam, etc.). There are plenty of families with more than two adults, romantically involved in various configurations, who maintain households and raise kids together. It's not impossible.

On the other hand, plural (I prefer plural to open, because many such relationships are polyfidelitous) relationships aren't for everyone. I have a suspicion that just as any given person is hardwired to be attracted to just men, just women, or both, any given person can also have a natural affinity for monogamy or polyamory, and a poly person in a mono relationship is never really going to be comfortable (and vice versa). It takes a whole lot of open communication and honesty, more than most people can handle in a society where we're trained to play games with each other, but it can work.

I hope that wasn't too choppy -- I kept having to stop and consider that not everybody has done all the research I have. :)


I believe this conversation started just with whether you agreed with swingers, not with plural relationships co-habitating. None of those are my cupa, but hey, if it works and no one gets hurt or is forced into it, what the hey!

LilPuppie
01-06-2011, 11:51 PM
Not all plural relationships, or even most, are just about playtime, though; nor are they primarily based on patriarchal religion (FLDS, some varieties of Islam, etc.). There are plenty of families with more than two adults, romantically involved in various configurations, who maintain households and raise kids together. It's not impossible.




I find the concept of plural relationships...alien. Of course, living in the Sault it's not something I've really had much exposure to. I believe that, like you said, so long as everyone is a fully consenting adult, then it's up to the individuals. If anyone close to me lived that kind of lifestyle, I'd be supportive, but I don't think it would be for me. I would try out a threesome or an open relationship, but that would depend a lot on my partner, their thoughts on it, and the level of trust we had. I wouldn't insist on it but would be open to it.