My daughters best friend passed away yesterday...

[tasma]

and I don't know how to handle it with her. And how do I handle it with the mother who is also a friend. She was only 20 yrs old and made some bad choices. I feel horrible for the family they have been through so much in the last 5 yrs.

[SusyQ]

WOW hun just be there for them hold them listen too them and most important let them know you care and you'll be there for them. Sorry.

[tippikitty]

Wow sooo sad!!! Sorry to hear of the loss. As far as advice, sorry I don't have any other then what Susy said.

[tasma]

Thanks SusyQ and Tippy. Its hard to not cry myself for what they lost and what I still have. That's what I wanted to say, Everyone hug your kids closer everyday, you don't know when its going to end.

[SusyQ]

Hold what you have close EVERYDAY!

[kitca]

oh no, that is so sad. condolences to the family and friends of this girl. sure makes you see mortality and how frail life is. i will take your advise and hug dot extra tight today and not take our happy family forgranted.

[Karen-Annie]

I am REALLY getting tired of hearing about the loss of another one too young. This has been a REALLY bad stretch in the Soo and I wish it would STOP!

As for how to handle it with your daughter and the girl's mother.....lots of hugs, lots of love and good,patient ears.

[kinkysquiggles]

So heartbreaking...this poem is touching

The poem below seems so true in these horrible moments of life when a parent loses a child:

A Child that loses a parent is an orphan,

A Man who loses his wife is a widower,

A Woman who loses her husband is a widow,

There is no name for a parent that loses a child,

For there is no word to describe the pain.

[Sophie's_Mommy]

My condolences to the family as well, my sister worked with her and she is having a hard time dealing with it as well. So sad and so young...

[tasma]

thanks

[DOGWALKER1]

our prayers are with you and the family

[westend mama]

PM to you tasma5

[Super Gram]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Karen-annie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I am REALLY getting tired of hearing about the loss of another one too young. This has been a REALLY bad stretch in the Soo and I wish it would STOP!

As for how to handle it with your daughter and the girl's mother.....lots of hugs, lots of love and good,patient ears. </div></div>


I think Karen Annie says it best.

We have a thing in our family. When we speak to each other on the phone we always say "Love you."

[Karen-Annie]

So do we,SuperGram. I even have to chuckle sometimes if I've had a spat on the phone and we slam the receiver down.A few minutes later one of us calls the other back just to say "Love you." Just in case.

[dancingqueen]

aw, that's sweet Karen-annie
Tasma, the loss of a friend is a hard thing to approach. I think the best thing to do for both cases is to be there to listen to them, be a shoulder and keep doing the things you used to do together if you two used to go for coffee continue to do so ect...

[tasma]

Thanks for the advise and don't for get to call a loved one tonight maybe one you haven't spoken to in a while! Its important to make sure they know your there and you love them no matter what.

[Teddy_Gurl]

I love you Ann!

[gouligann]

How sad and tragic. Too young. I can't imagine the pain.

Just be there for her, and encourage her to talk about the good times. As hard as it will be to call her, visiting her, and doing things with her, do it as often as you can handle.

So sorry for everyone involved.

[dancingqueen]

I think it's important to get them out of the house. I know that helped in my recent passings. It could be different for other people though because I am a social person normally. but people are different. That's why I say don't change anything. keep doing what you used to do, just be more aware of what they say, even more so than you used to be. and respond to what they say again.. even more so. my thoughts are with you, your family, and the family of those involved.

[smokey_canada]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Karen-annie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I am REALLY getting tired of hearing about the loss of another one too young. This has been a REALLY bad stretch in the Soo and I wish it would STOP!

As for how to handle it with your daughter and the girl's mother.....lots of hugs, lots of love and good,patient ears. </div></div>

Well afew weeks ago I tried posting a warning here on a sunday morning but one of the mod's took it apon themselves to remove it. I guess since this is a family board or something or whatever reason they thought but after seeing seven people and there families having to deal with there kids oding on bad ecstasy in a weekend I tried to put the warning out since it was just the one brand but this is a family site so they say. So instead of just maybe stopping someone from oding and helping a family have to watch there kid oding just let the gods do as they please here.. Sorry Tasma I have to intention of highjacking your thread and I no this has nothin todo woth your friend just wanted to add to karen's post and the reason so many are dieing.