What would you do?

[Stickler]

I have a friend who is in quite a predicament. A family member of his recently offered him the opportunity to become an apprentice for the company that the family member works for. If the apprenticeship is not available, chances are my friend could become a laborer for this company, getting paid roughly $14/hr.

Here's the predicament. My friend lives in the Sault and the job opportunities are down in Southern Ontario. My friend has a girlfriend of quite some time and there is a possibility that his girlfriend could be pregnant. What would you do? Move down south for the better jobs or stay here?

[italiandomino]

move .. get out of this rat hole !!

[General Lee]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ItalianDomino</div><div class="ubbcode-body">move .. get out of this rat hole !! </div></div>

agreed

[blueeyedgirl]

If there is a child on the way, I would move to take the opportunity that he is given to further his life in a better way. That is my opinion though.

[Stickler]

Also......I forgot to mention that the girlfriend would not be able to move with him (sorry I left that important detail out). The friend would have to break up with the girlfriend to move, thus leaving her with a baby (if she truely is infact pregnant)

[dancingqueen]

ya, take her with him and move, although $14.00/hr is not much, I would be looking for better opertunity elsewhere, but use this place as a steping stone



**edited**
stay with the baby's mommy and look for a beter opertunity

[blueeyedgirl]

Yah that changes everything. If she has a baby on the way and wants to stay here for the support of her family than he would have to look for a better opportunity here.

[Babzz]

Regardless of what he/they decide he is responsible for the child and will have to step up to the plate!

[Tutones]

Sounds like she is the one who needs to make the decision, not him. It is a no brainer that he should move for the job opportunity to look out for his future interests and those of the child. It is up to her whether or not she loves him enough to go with him and support his goals and raise the child together. If she cannot leave because of a job she would be on maternity leave anyway and has a year to move with him and make up her mind...

[AngelOnHigh]

if it is that much of a question... he must not be too concerned about the girl... or he thinks he can do a long distance thing. if he were totally sure about the girl he would not even be considering it. that is just my opinion of course... so i think he take the job... again, just my opinion.

[TPK]

Why can't she go would be my first question. Any chance to get the heck out of dodge take it!

[Stickler]

The girlfriend he has is American. She does not have her citizenship yet. On top of that, my friend's family totally dislikes her.

[AmdWolfman]

if they do everything in order that could put it toghether

[adigirl]

$14.00 in Southern Ontario is not a lot of money. Not sure if it is worth moving a family for.

[Guest]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: adigirl</div><div class="ubbcode-body">$14.00 in Southern Ontario is not a lot of money. Not sure if it is worth moving a family for. </div></div>I agree, the cost of living is much higher. You'd have to think if the increase in pay is more than the increase he would experience in the cost of living. Personally I'd stay here...

[tippikitty]

I think he should stay here now knowing that his gf can't move with him. He made a baby and it is his responsibility to stay here and take care of it. Besides 14 dollars isn't a lot of money to move away from your unborn child and gf. He's better off to stay here and look for something better. The City is improving so you just never know what kind of job opportunities are around the corner.

[Stickler]

Thanks for the suggestions! [img]/ubbthreads/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/laugh.gif[/img]

[GRUMPY]

regardless if he stays or goes he has a baby to support.

[NoName]

It depends on the job opportunity itself. If 14/hour is just a starting wage and there is a good chance that he can make a lot more than that, he should probably go. But for 14/hour by itself, it wouldn't be worth it because the cost of living down there is almost 3 times as high as it is here. Supporting a girlfriend and a child on 14/hour in southern ontario is impossible without assistance (whether it's from family or the government).

Stay here in a dead end city, live with your parents and make $8 per hour.